Girls, this 21st century India is not for you

Entire life, when a simple kissing scene onscreen becomes a taboo, and masturbation seems some superficial and non-existential phenomenon, suddenly a girl is forced into marriage and is expected to get physically intimate with spouse. Is that transition easy?

Agreed, we are living in 21st century and girls are modern. But sorry to burst your bubble, when you see this same 21st century modern girl around with a guy, laughing or sharing some cordial words, she becomes ‘easy’. The thought never crosses our mind that the person must be her brother or friend, but no, he has to be her sex partner.

When we see this 21st century modern girl talking about her period cramps or goes out to buy tampons or contraceptive pills (I wonder how many of you know they are used to regulate period cycle as well, instead of just being a precautionary measure against unwanted pregnancy) for self, you eye her as if its criminal offense. Worst is when length of skirt becomes the measure of her character. Shorter the skirt, more ‘inviting’ she is.

If a girl does not shy away from watching some intimate scene, then she becomes shameless. However, you will never understand that this 21st century modern girl knows that is cinematic representation. Moreover, even if it is real life then she is aware that the two involved in the act ‘consent’ to it.

If she is dating a guy and then moves on for some reason with another guy, she becomes slut. Wait! Even coming home late daily makes her a slut. Being comfortable in the opposite sex’s company makes her a slut. Alternatively, is that smoking, consuming alcohols and going to parties, make her a slut? I never knew, we Indians excelled in slut shaming.

You will blame her ‘inviting’ clothes, without realizing that it is sari that reveals more than few of the western attire. Her time to be on roads will always be the reason why she was raped.

She asked for it by being alone. She had it coming by being out at this hour. Nevertheless, no guy will had it coming even if he is out for clubbing or just like that. But she will, even if her occupation demands that. Oh wait! she should just be a homemaker or at max, a teacher- the best job for girls. Isn’t it? She should call her molester ‘bhaiya’ that would stop this ‘cultured’ guy. Reason being how could he touch his own sister in shameless manner. And if you wonder who thinks like that… then, the comments in this paragraph are mostly by our respectable politicians who think that boys are bound to be reckless.

Men will always be men but girls need to know their limits

Worst is when she talks about her sexual experiences, she becomes incredulously shameless creature on the Earth. Welcome to 21st century India, people. We might have stepped into a new millennium almost 17 years ago, but deeply ingrained outlook of ours never ever let us grow. Here I very discreetly escaped from using the word ‘culture’, because with time, culture evolves but here we are still struck in time. But yes, society never stopped culturing the budding plant in its mold.

A girl can be forced to get married at a naïve age of 9 or 10, but as an adult, she is not expected to touch her private parts. Leave aside the thought of her watching porn. However, you know what, this conditioning since childhood is irrespective of sex. However, the difference lies in the reactions earned after being caught. While the boy turns into an adult, the girl should be married off before she defames the family. This is where the basic difference between two genders lies. Even today, the male child is told to enjoy fullest but the moment female child steps out, she is told to stay safe. Even the advertisement of sanitary napkins asks the girl to stay safe and stay tension free of that blot of period on trousers.

How can a ‘cultured’ girl ‘unveil’ herself just after marriage!!

If this conditioning is so strong, then how do you expect a girl to shed her upbringing and the way society cultured her for years, with the exchange of nuptial vows? Moreover, if you think that her nature can overpower in this moment of intimacy as well, and then be careful it might hurt the delicate male ego. So, what you are taught since childhood, do that-submit to the other person, even in wrong. Her whimpers would be of the first timer inexperienced sexual being, not of reluctance.

I wonder, how many of you will catch the sarcasm. So I state the obvious, it is you and each of us who has made the girl a nervous wreck who is still unknown to her sexuality. Moreover, you will never introduce her to that, because you know how easily that will topple the patriarchy, once she realizes her reproductive authority. And if you don’t want her to give that authority, then atleast let her know herself instead of constructing four walls around her own body and treating sexuality as taboo for girls.